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The Best Dating Tips for Men—Guaranteed to Work!

Are you looking for some of the top dating tips for men?  There are many people giving advice out there, some of which is contradictory.  Where does one begin to find the truth?  Start by putting yourself in a woman’s shoes.  No, don’t go out a buy a pair of high heels.  This is just an illustration.

How would you like it if you were hit on constantly by people that you were not attracted to?  Imagine being a woman and having a man stalking you almost every day of the week?  Now you’re starting to see part of the problem.  So many guys, and so little originality.  Contrary to what you might have heard, women are looking for friendly men, though not necessarily the “nice guy” you so often pretend to be.  Being nice doesn’t mean being a doormat.  You must have self-confidence.  You should be a kind person, but one with your own opinions.  

This is the biggest and best advice when it comes to dating tips for men: she must see you as her equal.  Think about the women you have been attracted to.  They were easy on the eyes, but what qualities besides looks really made you interested in them?  Did they smile, look you in the eye and tease you a little?  Were they fun to be around?  This is the person you want to be—-a fun and successful version of yourself.

Don’t put on a show, or flash cash to try to impress.  If you want an actual relationship with someone then you have to be yourself.  If you aren’t yourself, do you honestly think you can keep up an act throughout the life of the relationship?  That is tiring and self-defeating.  Being yourself doesn’t mean you should show up on a first date in a hole covered shirt, unwashed, and untidy!  On the contrary, don’t you feel special when a woman is all dolled up to go out with you?  Women feel the same way.  We want to see you at your best.  Putting your best face forward does not mean lying about who you are.  Don’t say you love things that you hate, or pretend to be someone you are not.  This route will only end in unhappiness.  Follow these dating tips for men and putt the right foot forward.

You may feel you already know these basic things, but you might be surprised at how many men don’t even bother with the basics of romance.  Many men ruin their first dates by talking about their exes, being rude, acting desperate, shy, or fake.  Avoiding the basic pitfalls, and following these dating tips for men, will put you ahead of the majority.

By: Anna Karimo

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Meet Singles in 3 Minutes in Chat Rooms & Free Online Dating Sites !


Like many singles, your planning on heading out this weekend in the hope of meeting then dating that perfect guy or girl. This scenario, for many, can repeat itself week in week out as you look forward to your big night out. If you think about it, going out to a bar or club is one of the most competitive past times singles face as you are basically competing with hundreds of other singles on a night out and are all looking for the same result – to meet or pick up someone, right?

Not only are you competing with complete strangers who are vying for the affections from that same guy or girl as you are, but also with your buddies with whom you go out with. Occasionally you might exchange phone numbers with other singles and end up dating them later on only to eventually realise you are not attracted to them when you meet up days later in a more subdued environment. This is a very common scenario. Finding the right chemistry is not an easy thing to do.

More and more singles are looking for dating options on the internet and are growing tired of the grind of city venues. Free online dating sites provide a much more targeted and safe dating option. In a matter of a few minutes, you can assess, contact and chat to singles in your local area.

So your at a bar, you spot someone you are attracted to, it could take half the night to muster the courage to chat to this person and the results are by no means guaranteed. When you are surfing a free online dating site, it literally takes a fraction of the time to initiate contact. If you are a shy person this also removes the feeling anxious factor, just flick them an attention grabbing message and see what happens!

Chat rooms are a fantastic way of sitting on the sidelines and checking out the talent before making your move. Its not all that different to standing at the bar and checking out other singles, but with chat rooms no one can see you and you don’t feel paranoid about standing there by yourself and gazing into the crowd.

Web cams! Log onto a free dating site that has a web chat facility. With this feature its a great way chat and interact with someone you have just met online. You are able to assess if there is any chemistry before dating them face to face.

Don’t feel embarrassed by looking for singles online, more than 1 million singles joined online dating sites in Australia in December 2008. While your friends are too embarrassed to take the plunge, you are getting on with one of the main fundamentals of happiness, finding love.

By: Mr Online Dating

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How To Get A Girl’s Number

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This week, Doc Love, author of “The
 explains how to get a girl’s number.

reader’s question

Hey Doc,I recently met Jillian at a karaoke competition. I walked up to her
and told her she did a good job. We talked for about 10 minutes. I should have asked for
her phone number, but I
didn’t want to seem too pushy. However, she was very friendly and easy to talk to.
She happens to work at a restaurant I frequent. She said to come and visit her some time
when I go there. I said I would request her section. She is a “10” by the way,
but I hope to win her over through Challenge.

Moving Too Fast?

Through Facebook I invited Jillian to a party I was throwing and posted a comment that it
would be cool if she could make it. I also messaged her, but got no response to either. I
know this was a mistake, but I’m only reading your book now. I am guessing that
Jillian has no interest in me because she would have probably responded to one of those
messages. Her sister happens to work at the same restaurant as Jillian does, and she
usually ends up being our waitress. This gives me an opportunity to say
something to Jillian’s sister that I am sure she will tell Jillian. I don’t
want to ask her for Jillian’s phone number or anything. But if I happen to see
Jillian and she seems interested in me, I will go ahead and ask her for it. But should I
say something to her sister if she waits on my table? I thought about saying something
along the lines of “I met your sister the other day at the karaoke competition and
she sang really well.” I also thought about saying something like “Jillian is
really cool,” or something like that.So what do you think, Doc? How do I
get a girl’s number? What should I do when I finally see Jillian again?Lawrence – who still has hope 

Doc Love’s Response

Hi Lawrence, Asking for a girl’s phone number is the very first
check you make of her
Interest Level
— that’s how important it is. This is not being aggressive or
pushy, my friend. This is simply a matter of trying to ascertain how interested she is in
you. To you psych majors, a woman can be nice and throw herself all over you when you meet
her, but if she doesn’t give you her phone number it means that her attention was
nothing but a big act.Doc Love explains how to get a girl’s number, next…

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Being Needy

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This week, Doc Love, author of “The System,” advises a reader who’s being needy.

reader’s question

Hey Doc,

I’ve been with Shari for two and a half years. I’m 28, she’s 25 and we live apart (me with my ill mother and her with her family). But after hearing your radio show, I’ve been forced to take an honest look at myself and decided that I am in need of coaching. Like with any relationship, there have been some bumps in the road, and I must shoulder part of the blame because I have taken the “wimpy” approach.

Constantly trying to be the nice guy, I have lost the upper hand and feel like the woman in the relationship. My insecurity has caused me to make myself come across as needy. I am always the first to talk about the future, to which Shari usually gets uncomfortable in discussing “heavy” topics. We work together and she is genuinely my best friend and can definitely be a Giver, however it is maddening to know that my interest in her is probably at least 90%, but the sad reality is I feel like hers is probably only about 70% to 75%.  Although that doesn’t seem like too large of a gap, sometimes I feel it is worlds apart.

Sometimes Shari will say how she wants to raise our kids or what she wants in our house, but when I try to expand on the issues,  she gets uncomfortable and shuts it down. Shari is one of those girls who has a bunch of guy friends because she doesn’t get along with girls. I am trying not to be a jerk, but I don’t like it. I admit that my insecurity about her is through the roof and that is on me, but I am looking for coaching so I do not ruin this relationship.  We have rarely fought, and she is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. By the way, she has been in this country for 10 years and is a refugee of war and comes from a very emotionally distant family that rarely shows affection. In her past, she was engaged and lived with a man who physically and verbally abused her.

As for me, I’ve only had one serious relationship before this and am obviously not an expert. I am happiest when I am with Shari, but when we are apart I am miserable. I know I’ve become a wimp, and it wasn’t until my ex left me that I took this weak and pathetic approach in my life. I know you will say I need to buy “The System,” and I give you my word I will, but in the meantime, Doc, I have no one I can talk to or ask for advice on this matter. I feel like a loser and am embarrassed by the lack of balls I have displayed. Shari has told me on numerous occasions that she was attracted to my confident, sarcastic attitude and tattoos (i.e. the bad boy persona), but now that I have her, I act like a wuss.

Fang – who can’t stand himself

Doc Love’s Response

Hi Fang,

If you’re aware that the wimpy approach is not working, why do you continue using it? Have you thought about taking another approach besides the wimpy? As far as feeling like the woman when you’re with Shari, you’re not alone. Like my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love says, “That’s the way it is in most relationships.” If you keep talking about heavy topics with Shari and she shuts you down, why do you repeat your mistakes? This is a syndrome that I point out in my book — which you don’t have. If you keep doing something that makes your girl uncomfortable, why would you go on doing it? Wouldn’t common sense tell you that your approach isn’t working and that you should get a hold of my book and find out what the
alternatives are? Don’t you ask yourself these questions, guy? Or do you want to stay marooned in a cycle of self-defeat?

How should Fang handle his situation? That’s next…

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Relationship Insecurity

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This week, Doc Love, author of “The System,” advises a reader on dealing with relationship insecurity.

Reader’s Question

Hey Doc,I’m thoroughly amazed by your columns and the amount of insight you are able to put into them. I’m writing regarding a major issue that I’m having with Delilah. She’s a beautiful, fun, honest, caring girl, and we’ve been dating for two years now. We did have a minor breakup three months into this relationship. The cause was nothing too big, just that things were becoming rather dull and I made my mistakes,

Here’s the problem. After that breakup, I offered to take Delilah out to lunch for a closure date. It ended with her kissing me on the cheek. The day after that, there was a party to which we were both invited. At this party, she made out with another guy. It might have been on a dare, but she wouldn’t have done it if she actually cared about me. Two days later, she was leaving for Bali for the summer, and I went to see her off at the airport, something she asked for.

We made out at the airport, which reignited our spark, and as soon as I got home, I received a text saying, “Why did you do that? Now I can’t get you off my mind.” Obviously, she was leading me on to believe there was some hope left in this relationship.Before I go on, I’d like to mention that I was very “whipped” by Delilah in the sense that I really, really loved her and would do anything to get her back — anything. When Delilah was in Bali, she said things like, “I still feel like I belong to you. I could meet other guys if I wanted, but I don’t because I feel like I’m still yours.”

Just one day after she said it, she went to third base with some guy from her old school. This was all within a week of breaking up with me, and it completely wrecked me. I still haven’t forgotten the feeling I had that night, and it happened a year ago.Delilah told me how bad she felt about what happened and how it was boring and how the guy begged her for three hours until she gave in. Then she told me she loved me, and like the whipped dog I am, I said, “I love you, too.”Things got better after that, as we got back together a month later and are now happy as
can be. Or so it seems.

Doc, I am extremely insecure now. I feel that whenever Delilah goes out or is at a party where I’m not, she will cheat on me. I can’t stand the thought of her being alone with another guy, even though I know she won’t do anything. Delilah is now leaving the country for two years, and even though we will try and arrange visits, it deeply saddens me and I’m going to miss her more than I can imagine. Sorry for the sissy talk. What do you propose I do? I will be worried and sleep-deprived every time she tells me she’s going out. I always feel I am not good enough for Delilah, and I want this to end. I really need your coaching, Doc.Chung – who needs to change himself

Doc Love’s Response

Hi Chung,You say you had a “minor” breakup with Delilah just after you
started dating and that the cause was nothing much. I’ve got news for you: You don’t break
up over something minor; you break up for something major. To you psych majors,
when you split with a babe, the cause is something big. When you don’t break up, it’s not
a big deal. So you’re rationalizing here, pal.Why did you go to a party that
Delilah was invited to? You just split up with her, didn’t you? But it doesn’t matter why
she kissed another guy. You two are history, remember? If she dumped you, there’s nothing
wrong with her kissing someone else. Like my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love says, “It just
verifies the fact that you’re finished.”How does Chung get over his
relationship insecurity? That’s next…

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