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Women Only: 6 Reliable Dating Tips to Use After Divorce

When it comes to dating after a divorce, you need to tread softly and not make any mistakes. There are rules you need to apply if you are divorced and out of circulation for awhile. Here are 6 dating tips to use  if you really want to find love after a break-up.

       1.Caution is Key                     

When you are fresh out of a divorce, you need to proceed with caution. And not enter a relationship that will leave you worse off. Learn to strike a balance with friends, acquaintances and that special someone. Do not allow your hormones do the talking. Enter every potential  relationship with caution.

     2.Go With Your Gut

Another good dating tip to use after a divorce is instinct. Many of us go with a certain type of person. A person coined from a magazine or movie. Be real. Go with your gut and what works. And not a fantasy idea you read from the Internet.  Lose the checklist and go for what makes you really happy.

3.  Grow thick Skin

Dating after a divorce is not a bed of roses. You are going to meet interesting people during your dating quest. So prepare yourself to put up with excesses. You want a relationship, so be tolerant about what comes your way. If you don’t like what you see, don’t be a nuisance about it. Take it with some thick skin and break the “it- is- not- working” news as gently as you can.

4.  Reality Bites

Be prepared. There are people you will like who will not like you back. They might be commitment- shy. He might offer lame excuses like work, sickness and all that. Don’t sink with flimsy excuses, move on  with life. Not everything always works according to how we want it. Get used to it.

5.Get Girlfriends

If you are not the sociable type. Or have friends who have experience is in the singles dating department, you need to find them. They are valuable resources. They can point you in the right direction. And offer you valuable tips to use in dating after a divorce. In the wacky world of divorce dating, you need all the help you can get.

6.The Ex-factor

When you are making a pitch for a relationship, go for something new. Do not measure everyone with your ex. Defy your nature and go for someone different and  totally opposite from your ex and what you are used to. Sometimes, to make progress you need to walk in the opposite direction.

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Dating Tips for Guys – How to Handle Dating More Than One Woman

When the topic of dating more than one woman comes up, things tend to get a bit polarized. Some people think that it is wrong to date more than one woman at a time and there’s nothing that you can do to change their mind. And then there are some that are open to the idea, simply because they are not really in frame of mind where they want to just be focused on one woman. I’m going to assume that you are in the second group, because well, you probably would not be reading this article if you weren’t.

Personally, I see nothing wrong with dating more than one woman at a time, as long as you are not telling them that you are being exclusive to them and then running around behind their back. Dating has gotten a lot more modern anyways, and even a lot of women don’t want to be exclusive or rush things into commitment too soon.

Here are some dating tips for guys on how to handle dating more than one woman:

1. I have to say it again… you need to make sure that the women you are dating are aware that it is not an exclusive relationship.

Try to get around this, and you are pretty much guaranteed to end up in a sticky situation somewhere down the road. Some guys make the assumption that they have to hide the fact that they are seeing more than one woman, because they don’t think any woman will be cool with it. Times have changed and she’s more than likely going to be cool with it as long as you are not playing games with her.

2. You have to make sure that you can handle being open about things and allowing her the same luxury.

It’s not going to work out in most situations if you expect that she needs to be exclusive to you, and that you can go and do your own thing. So, you need to be able to handle the possibility that whatever woman you are not with could very well be out on a date with another guy. If you can’t handle this, then dating more than one woman probably is not for you.

3. You need to be responsible.

Hey, if you are going to play the field, then you cannot allow yourself to slack on the safety. Always make sure that you are protected when you are dating more than one woman. Most guys don’t think about safe sex until it is too late, but if you are going to date more than one woman at a time, this should definitely be on your mind at all times.

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Dating Services For Dummies

With a multitude of dating services out there on the web today, singles have never been more spoiled for choice when it comes to simple and convenient ways to meet people online. A Google search for ‘dating’ will bring up millions of results, all offering you the chance to find love and happiness. Many sites offer guaranteed results, but is this really possible and how do you know whether a site is for real or whether they are simply offering huge promises with little results?

Before you consider joining a dating site, you will first need to realise that in the dating game, there are seldom any fool-proof guarantees. When it comes to human nature, and all the complexities and emotions that each of us posses, not to mention compatibility and chemistry, love at first click (or first sight) is not always something that we can expect. Dating services can only promise to provide you with a range of good possible matches, the rest is up to fate, and up to the parties involved.

You will also need to take the following facts into account when considering dating services to use:

  • The free sites you may see generally offer the most basic services. These may allow you to post a profile, view profiles and occasionally even send and receive messages from possible interests, however there is little if any screening done and the service is limited in terms of matching of prospective partners. Pay to use services however tend to offer a broader range of services, and also have a high level of quality and attention.
  • While a good service will carefully screen all applicants, it is still important to remember how important it is to stay safe at all times. Never give our your details to someone you have just met online, and do not assume that that good looking man is who he says he is – some people lacking confidence may gloss over the truth or even post a fake or outdated photograph. When meeting someone for the first time, arrange to have coffee in a public place and keep it short and sweet – there will be plenty of time to slowly get to know people, to ensure that they are safe to be with.
  • Consider dating services that have a good reputation, and avoid ones that do not have a good reputation. Ask around, look for testimonials, don’t be afraid to ask for references, and always do your research before signing up.
  • Be clear about your relationship goals, and state these clearly on your profile. If you are more interested in making friends, networking or casual dating, then this should be indicated so that prospective matches understand what you are seeking. You do not wish to spend an evening with someone, only to find out towards the end that you have different relationship goals.
  • Look out for singles events as well as one on one dating opportunities. These give you a number of ways to meet singles and learn to enjoy yourself when dating. Newly divorced singles and those coming off a spell of singledom are able to ease back into the dating game without the pressure of one on one date, while also getting the benefit of more individual dating experiences. Choose dating services that offer a range of options to suit your needs.

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Reasons Not To Waste Your Valuable Time on So Called Free Dating Services

We all like free services. One such free service is Free Dating, which promises the advantages and benefits of online dating minus the cost and commitment you’d invest in online dating websites. However, when it comes to dating, are free dating services worth your time?

One wonders if free dating offers you full access within the sites. Though free dating allows you some free services, what services are available to only paying or premium members?

I visited several popular free dating sites and created profiles on them. I will keep the sites names to myself however, my experience with regard to access to services has been the same never mind which site I was in.

Creating a new account was fairly simple and did not take more than a few minutes. However, as is the case with businesses that promote a free service, it was easy to get in. Once in, what took me time and effort was navigating through the site and unfreezing the different pages and features of the service.



One reason for this is that you need to answer many questions, click Submit and then answer more questions in the next page. Why do they do this To ensure that you see the advertisements on each page you navigate. The more Ads you see the more the chances that you might be interested in one of them and the site makes money off you.

The free dating service is just a carrot to entice you to visit their site and sign up for the service. Once in, they put out all efforts to inundate you with advertisements. The whole experience can be truly irritating.

Your first time access might be because you will have to unlock content as you go along. Each time you have to give a little to gain a little – answering questions, creating your profile, uploading your picture, or providing your rating to peoples profiles. This gets you though many pages and advertisements. Apart from this, if you find someone you like and want to contact them, the sites will try to extract their three pounds of flesh. You might have to look at more advertisements, or upgrade your account, which means paying up.

Jumping through all the hoops and hurdles just to contact and meet someone makes you pay, if not in terms of money, then in terms of your time.

These sites don’t provide free full access. Free full access is a myth. You have to pay up to actually contact someone. Even though you can browse peoples profiles for free and see what the site is all about, its definitely not worth it if you have to go through pages and pages, answering questions while all that’s happening is, you’re just being enticed to pay up.

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Effective First Date Tips For Men Who Need Dating Assistance

When it comes to first date tips for men, there is just a lot of bad advice out there. Most of it tends to revolve around the type of nonsense that pickup artists use to try to trick women into going out with them. These ideas rarely if ever succeed at making a good impression, and almost ever lead to a second outing with the same woman. However, there are a few things that any man can do t ensure that his initial outing with a woman is a successful one.

Before picking her up.

The best dating preparation starts long before dates begin. The man should take the time to carefully plan the outing. Though women like a little spontaneous fun every now and then, they definitely prefer to be told in advance what their dates are going to entail. She will need that information to plan her attire, since she will want to make as much of an impression on the man as he wants to make on her.

Of course, grooming is a must. That includes attention to the hair, clothes, and cleanliness, as well as the state of whatever vehicle is being used. Every man should take a shower, shave, and select clothes that are appropriate for the evening’s activities. His date will notice any lack of grooming, and will judge him accordingly.

The pickup

The guy should also have a compliment ready for the moment he sees the woman. It may seem overdone and a relic of prior generations, but the fact is that women love to be told they are beautiful. In addition to that compliment, be sure to give her some sort of praise a few other times during the night.

The new age of chivalry

Be sure to open the door for her on that initial meeting and throughout the evening. Never assume that a woman’s independence and strength means that chivalry is not appreciated. They still enjoy being made to feel special and little things like opening a door can go a long way toward impressing any woman.

The meal

Allow her to order her own food. Sure, it looks very masculine in the movies when a man orders his companion’s meal, but most women don’t really appreciate that. Be sure to use the right table manners, and make sure that she doesn’t pay the bill. This last point can get complicated in cases where the woman insists on splitting the costs. Nevertheless, most women will allow a man to pay if he simply tells her that the evening is his treat.

Beyond dinner

In general, movies should be avoided on initial dates, since they provide no opportunity to get to know one another. Instead, choose something that can provide some entertainment while also enabling conversation to occur. Miniature golf, a walk on the pier, or a trip to a trendy gallery can all provide a welcome diversion.

At the end of the night, the man will have to make that most pressing decision: to kiss or not to kiss. In general, there are no hard or fast rules in this area. The best advice is to simply kiss her gently if the evening has gone well, and then promise to call her the next day. Any man who has used these first date tips for men will find that she will be more than willing to take that call.

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10 Online Dating Safety Tips You Should Never Forget

It seems everyone is into online dating today. Years back it was taboo to say you had met that special someone over the Internet as today it’s become mainstream. Popular Internet dating sites like www.TheFitnessPersonals.com are making meeting that special someone increasingly easier. With this new medium for induction taking off with it comes some common sense and not so common sense rules to go by.

Hear are my top 10:

1. Only meet your date when you are 100% ready. You got to feel comfortable first. Make sure your ‘gut’ agrees with you head.

2. Keep it public. First date should be in a public place like a coffee shop or restaurant.

3. Meet at the date location – meaning DO NOT meet at your dates place of residence or yours. If the date goes really well you’ll then have plenty of opportunity in the future to go there but not now.

4. Keep the date to a limit. Say 1 hour. That give you both plenty of time to get an idea if a connection exists plus it keeps the pressure off if one person can’t wait for the date to be over. Remember – if it goes well then the next date can always be longer.

5. Make a friend aware. Let a friend know that you are going on a date with a new person and let that friend know where you are going to be. Agree to call your friend after the date to let him/her know everything is ok.

6. Make sure to have your cell phone with you and fully charged.

7. Avoid alcohol.

8. Do not leave your drink or food unattended. You don’t know this person so don’t trust too much from the beginning.

9 . Remember your gut. If it tell you things are off be ready to listen to it and simply end the date and leave.

10. Make sure when the date is over that you are not being followed so you get home safely.

Relationships take time to build and trust is something that shouldn’t be given away in a matter of minutes, hours, or even days. Remember – follow your gut and you will know when it’s right to take your relationship to the next level.

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